Beyond Exhaustion: How Brainspotting and IFS Help Military-Connected Women Heal from Chronic Burnout

“If you’re a military spouse or a woman balancing family, moves, and constant change, exhaustion can feel like your baseline. Maybe no amount of sleep, coffee, or self-care touches the heaviness. It’s not because you’re weak or doing something wrong—it’s because your nervous system is overburdened. At Paloma’s Serenity Counseling, I help women like you release the stress and trauma your body’s been holding, so you can finally feel like yourself again.”

Life as a military-connected woman often feels like living two lives at once. On one hand, you’re holding down the fort—managing kids, careers, relocations, and the emotional weight of deployments. On the other, you’re expected to keep it all together, smile through it, and show up for everyone around you. Eventually, the quiet exhaustion sets in. You might feel numb, irritable, or so tired that even your bones feel heavy.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone and you’re not broken. Burnout, especially when tied to trauma and chronic stress, isn’t something you can solve by just “taking a day off.” Your body and mind need deeper support.

Why Typical Self-Care Isn’t Enough

Bubble baths, meditation apps, and vacations can help for a moment, but they don’t touch the root of what’s happening in your nervous system. Chronic burnout is often tied to unresolved stress and trauma stored in your body. That’s where trauma-informed therapy like Brainspotting and Internal Family Systems (IFS)—can make a real difference.

What Are Brainspotting and IFS?

Brainspotting uses your eye position to help your brain and body process what’s been stuck—without needing to relive every detail of your story. It’s powerful for releasing the weight of trauma, anxiety, and chronic stress.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps you connect with the parts of yourself that carry the burden of responsibility, fear, or self-criticism, so those parts can finally soften.

Together, these approaches can help you feel grounded, more in control, and finally able to breathe again.

Virtual Care Across Colorado

Whether you’re stationed on base, living in rural Colorado, or managing another PCS move, we can do this work together virtually. All you need is a quiet space, a device, and the willingness to try something different.

You Deserve Relief

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re barely holding on, know that you don’t have to carry this alone. I’d love to meet you for a free 15-minute consultation—no pressure, just space for you to share your story and see if this feels like the right fit.